THE YEAR OF FIRSTS

When everything is happening for the first time without them.

The first birthday.

The first Christmas.

The first time something wonderful happens, and they're still the first person you want to tell.

The first ordinary Tuesday when the reality of their absence hits you all over again.

The first year after someone dies isn't a neat procession of milestones. It's a whole bloody landscape of moments you didn't know were going to hurt until you reached them.

The Year of Firsts is twelve months of one-to-one bereavement support, with me beside you throughout it.

Not to move you through grief.

Not to make sure you're "doing well" by the end of the year.

And certainly not to help you get over the person you love.

This is about giving you somewhere you don't have to pretend.

You don't have to ride this alone

Grief can feel like being strapped into a rollercoaster you never agreed to get on.

One moment you're functioning surprisingly well.

The next, you're floored by a song in the supermarket.

There can be sadness, anger, relief, guilt, numbness, laughter, fear, and moments of genuine joy, sometimes all before lunchtime.

There is no version of that which I need you to tidy up before bringing it to me.

For this year, I'll climb into the front seat with you.

We'll work with what is actually happening, as it happens.

Sometimes we'll talk.

Sometimes we'll make sense of something that has completely blindsided you.

Sometimes we'll work with emotions that have been pushed down because everyone around you needs you to be "okay".

And sometimes you might simply need someone who understands why today is hard.

The Year of Firsts includes

Weekly one-to-one sessions
Regular space that's yours, available online via Zoom or in person.

WhatsApp support between sessions
Because grief doesn't politely wait for your next appointment. You'll have access to me between 8am and 8pm (GMT) when you need a little support, orientation, or somewhere to put the words.

Two private 1:1 Intensives
Two deeper periods of time together during the year, usually around March/April and September/October, giving us the space to work beyond what can fit into a normal session.

Full Moon Remembrance Circles
A monthly opportunity for the person you love to be consciously remembered and included.

Most importantly, you have continuity.

You don't have to explain yourself from the beginning every time something happens.

I'll already know the landscape.

This may be for you if...

Your loss is recent and the thought of navigating the coming year feels enormous.

You're tired of being asked whether you're "feeling better yet".

You need somewhere your grief can be honest, messy, contradictory and real.

You want consistent support rather than waiting until things become unbearable.

Or you simply don't want to do the first year alone.

Investment

£6,500 for twelve months of support.

This is a significant commitment, from both of us.

That's why I don't want you clicking a button and purchasing it at eleven o'clock at night because today has been particularly awful.

Let's talk first.

We can meet, you can ask whatever you need to ask, and we can decide whether we're the right fit for one another.

I'm not the right person for everyone.

But for the people I'm meant to journey with, I'll stay.

Your grief matters. You matter.